Real love , romantic fantasies and more

How can we expect to find real love based on romantic fantasies? Many of us say we want 'real love', but that thoughts and feelings we have about it are often based on fairy stories or Disney movies. How is that ever going to work?

OK, so maybe I am a bit being dense. Maybe what we are really trying to do is make reality out of our fantasies. But, wait a minute. Isn't what grows out of fantasies just more fantasies? Doesn't reality grow out of what is real?

Is it such an odd idea that love grows out of what is real rather than which is a fantasy?

What is so bad about reality, anyway, that we want to escape it? After all, were are not stupid, we must have a good reason for escaping if that is what we are doing.

Ah, yes. Maybe what we try and escape from is not reality but our negative fantasies. Just like we grow up having a built in set of romantic fantasies; maybe we also grow up with a built in set of negative fantasies. Maybe we confuse cynical, fearful, or negative fantasies (which we inherited from others) as reality?

If that is true no wonder we try and escape that supposed 'reality'.

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